Oh Death…

A reality that we will all face in our lives is death. And a likely event to occur on our journey toward death is the death of someone we love.

Yesterday my wife and I attended a memorial service for Mr. Bill Saunders who I had the privilege of knowing and spending some time with over many lunches and small group meetings the past three years. He was 71 years old and had been married for 47 years to his wife Kathy. The memorial service yesterday was preceded by the news that my grandfather passed away the night before. He was 93 years old and had been married for 65 years with my grandmother, who was by his side with my mom and her twin sister when he passed.

Death of loved ones…

Last Sunday the pastor of our church opened a new sermon series by reading the whole book of Hebrews as his sermon. You can listen to it by clicking here. While hearing God’s word read out loud, it was fascinating to see what phrases and words repeat throughout the whole book. As it turns out, Hebrews talks a good bit about death. But the death Hebrews points to is the very specific death of Jesus.

Hebrews 2:9 But we see him who for a little while was made lower than the angels, namely Jesus, crowned with glory and honor because of the suffering of death, so that by the grace of God he might taste death for everyone.

Someone died a death that was tasted for everyone. More specifically, Jesus died a death that was tasted for all of us who believe in Jesus. When Jesus died, God’s own Son experienced death. It was a death of a loved one. 

Death of loved ones…

The weight of death is just difficult. No matter when you see it coming or know it’s certainty, it’s difficult. We look at it and wonder, “What good is there in death?” Yet, we learn when reading the Bible that God has turned death upside down. In the most remarkable way, God used death to bring about life.

Hebrews 2:14 Since therefore the children share in flesh and blood, he (Jesus) himself likewise partook of the same things, that through death he might destroy the one who has the power of death, that is, the devil, 15 and deliver all those who through fear of death were subject to lifelong slavery. 16 For surely it is not angels that he helps, but he helps the offspring of Abraham. 17 Therefore he had to be made like his brothers in every respect, so that he might become a merciful and faithful high priest in the service of God, to make propitiation for the sins of the people.

Through death, Jesus destroyed the one who has the power of death, the devil, and delivered the offspring of Abraham, which are those of us who believe in Jesus, from the fear of death to give us life. Through Jesus death we have life. How is this possible? Jesus became like us in every respect so that through his death he would satisfy God’s wrath (propitiation) for our sins. So God most clearly turned death upside down with the death of His loved one.

Death of loved ones…

But how do we cope when we lose the ones we love? How do we cope when the trials in life seem to multiply instead of decrease? Yesterday’s memorial service and the news of my grandfather’s passing are just two events in the midst of many other things that seem to pile up and magnify the weight of each thing. How can we bear it all at the same time? I think the answer is that we can’t. We need to find that answer outside of ourselves.

Hebrews 2:18 For because he himself has suffered when tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted.

Hebrews 5:7 In the days of his flesh, Jesus offered up prayers and supplications, with loud cries and tears, to him who was able to save him from death, and he was heard because of his reverence.

As we encounter all kinds of trials and difficulties, we are tempted to turn our attention and focus to our suffering. Jesus has experienced our suffering, and he has given us an example we can follow in our suffering. Jesus, although the Son of God, still offered prayers and requests to God, someone outside himself. Part of our coping is to pray to a God who lost His loved one in order that He can answer our prayers and love us for eternity.

Death of loved ones…

So as we remember our loved ones and think of memories that make us both joyful of their life and sorrowful that they are no longer with us, we must be trusting in something outside ourselves to endure these heart-wrenching times. As much as Jesus is our example as we stare worry and anxiety in the face, Jesus is still more than that for us. We most certainly need to behold Jesus as the perfect Son of God, but we also need to be held by Jesus to get through this. Behold Jesus and be held by Jesus.

Hebrews 12:2 looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God.

Hebrews 7:25 Consequently, he (Jesus) is able to save to the uttermost those who draw near to God through him, since he always lives to make intercession for them. 

Hebrews 4:14 Since then we have a great high priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus, the Son of God, let us hold fast our confession. 15 For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin. 16 Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.

Behold and be held. Let us look to Jesus who endured the greatest trial any man will ever face, sympathizes with our weakness, and ultimately succumbed to death in order that we all might experience life. In doing so, Jesus saved us to the uttermost such that we can draw near to God as Jesus himself is making intercession for us right now. Jesus is praying for us in the midst of our trials. As we behold Jesus, we can believe and trust that we are being held by Jesus. The more we behold Jesus the greater we will be drawn to him. He does not push us away but holds us even closer and gives us mercy and grace in our time of need.

As our hearts our sad and sorrowful today and many days ahead, let us draw near to the throne of grace through Jesus, the author and perfector of our faith. And we will see that Jesus will never disappoint us. Join me as we lay our troubles at the foot of Jesus, him we behold, in order that our hearts might be held. Behold Jesus and be held by Jesus.


Are You Waiting?

Are you waiting for something? Is there any better description of our daily lives than waiting? When are we not waiting for something?

Maybe today you are waiting for your first child to be born or to hear if you are getting that long desired promotion or for a friend to call you back or for the decision on whether you are getting that new job or for your spouse to finally catch on or for your child to actually obey or for your boss to recognize your hard work or for God to answer any of your prayers or for someone to meet you for lunch or for that sinking feeling of depression to go away or for a friend to apologize or for Jesus to return.

Waiting… we are always waiting for something.

The Journey Means Something

Think about some examples of waiting we see in the Bible:

  • Noah waiting for a world-wide flood and then waiting for the waters to recede
  • Abraham waiting for his promised son through Sarah
  • Moses’s parents waiting until the right time to put him in the Nile (in a basket).
  • The Israelites waiting to enter the promised land
  • Ruth waiting to see if Boaz was her kinsman-redeemer
  • Rahab waiting to find out if the Israelites would keep their word not to harm her
  • David waiting for his time to become king
  • The Israelites waiting to come out of exile
  • The Israelites waiting for their Messiah
  • Simeon waiting to see the Lord’s Christ before his death
  • Christians waiting to see Jesus return

The posture of waiting is a perpetual reality in the narrative of the Bible, which is why it is a perpetual reality in our lives. We can become much too fixated on the waiting instead of remembering who we are waiting with. No doubt it helps to wait with family and friends that we know and love, but it is even better to consider that our waiting is with Someone who has loved us abundantly.

One purpose for the journey of waiting is to learn more about the God who has saved us and who is conforming us more into the image of His Son. That sampling of examples above of those who have waited throughout the Bible display for us how God has been faithful, providential, sovereign, caring, loving, truthful, a promise-keeper, redeemer, savior, and so on. We can learn and experience an abundance of truth regarding the infinite number of glorious attributes of the God who is with us in our journey of waiting.

So do you wait well? I think the easy answer is probably not. I dare say that almost nobody waits well or maybe they wait well for one thing but the other twenty things not so much.

Sometimes Waiting Turns Bad

Consider when waiting has turned ugly in the Bible to learn from these as well:

  • Adam and Eve didn’t wait when they ate the forbidden fruit
  • Abraham didn’t wait for his promised son, so Ishmael was born
  • The Israelites didn’t wait for God’s provision in the wilderness so they complained

In that small selection we see the huge ramifications when we don’t wait well. No doubt, we can make some very poor decisions when our waiting has turned impatient, self-absorbed, and unthankful for the circumstance we find ourselves in.

So it would seem we should think about this some.

Look At Your Waiting

Think about how you are waiting today. Do you find anxious thoughts leading the way? Are you devising ways to speed up your waiting? Would those around you consider you grumpy as you wait? Maybe you are irritable because things aren’t happening as quickly as you want them or believe they should happen?

Being able to step back and observe how you are responding to a situation is God’s gift to you. Our lack of patience and peace in waiting is our opportunity to see what we are valuing most at that moment. Let that sink in for a moment to feel the gravity of that reality. Even as we are waiting for something, we are all chasing after something. When our waiting elicits anxiety, worry, doubt, unfaithfulness, unkindness, fear, or some other ungodly response, then we can know we are chasing after our desire to be king of our throne.

Our responses in life are mirrors for us to see what we really are in that moment. We are needy people in need of something better than what we are chasing to obtain.

Maybe you are thinking to yourself that you wait just fine because you are ignoring what you are waiting for or trying to not think about what you are waiting for or trying to occupy yourself with something else to distract your waiting. These are all temporary measures that simply delay your anxious thoughts of waiting instead of embracing your waiting as God’s gift to you.

The multitude of circumstances that God ordains in our lives does at least three things. First, God is giving us experiential knowledge into who He is. We will learn just how gracious God is in all our waiting. Second, we will learn tons about ourselves if we would just stop and look in the mirror. We will see our personal throne-chasing ways. We will see the ugliness of our sin. We will see our need for Someone outside ourselves to help us and to save us. Finally, as we learn more about who God is and who we are, then we see the gloriousness of Jesus Christ.

Consider Jesus

Have you ever stopped and thought about what waiting meant for Jesus? Here is the Eternal King wrapping himself in human flesh and living among us. Why? Because Jesus was to wait for just the right time to announce that His Kingdom had come. As part of that first coming, Jesus needed to substitute himself in place of humankind to pay the penalty for their sin in order that these same people could have everlasting fellowship with God.

So Jesus waited. He waited for thirty years being a son of a carpenter. Every day was one day closer to his ultimate purpose of taking on the wrath of God for all people who would believe in Him. We can’t even imagine what that waiting must have been like. We stress out waiting in line for a cup of coffee. Jesus was waiting YEARS for that moment when all the wrath due to humankind that had stored up for all time, past, present, and future would be laid on his shoulders.

And Jesus waited perfectly. Even as his mother Mary tried to hurry up his waiting, Jesus replied to her, “My hour has not yet come.” (John 2:4b) After Jesus announced his coming at his baptism, he still needed to wait three more years before his death.

Do you think it was hard for Jesus to wait? What kind of pressure did he feel being the perfect Son of God? As Jesus was preparing to pray in Gethsemane, think about what he said to his disciples, “My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death.” (Matthew 26:38) Think about what he prayed to God, “My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me.” (Matthew 26:39a) His waiting was excruciating!

Yet, Jesus waited perfectly. Even as he shares his overwhelming sorrow and prays for that cup to be taken from him, he says, “Yet not as I will, but as you will.” (Matthew 26:39b) Jesus waited perfectly.

So How Do We Wait?

First, we fix our gaze on Jesus as the author and perfecter of our faith (Hebrews 12:2). We see his example, and we see that he waited perfectly.

Second, we believe and trust by faith that Jesus accomplished what we are unable to do on our own. Jesus waited because he knew we couldn’t. Jesus died a death he knew we couldn’t die. Jesus was raised to life because he knew we could not have life without him.

Finally, we wait through the power of the Holy Spirit that was made possible through the perfect life, death, and resurrection of Jesus. He did not just give us an example to follow because that would crush us. Jesus lived in perfect obedience to empower our obedience, which is happening as we are enthralled with our incredible Savior that has our gaze. Jesus loves us. Our reasonable response is to love him in return.

Fix your gaze on Jesus. Know and learn who God is. Look in the mirror to see the sinful dross that needs purifying. Trust and obey that Jesus lives so that we can live. Jesus waited so that you could wait.

Read a poem reflecting on this post here.

Devoted to God

Are you a Christian? What has your life looked like since you became one? How do you grow to become like Christ? Do I have a role in this or am I only dependent on God to change me? I have been a Christian for 24 years now, and I did not realize until recently that what we believe are the answers to these questions has a dramatic impact on our ability to be successful in becoming more like Christ.

Specifically, the topic these questions fall under is our understanding of the process of sanctification.

Earlier this year, I read a book by Sinclair Ferguson called The Whole Christ that I would highly recommend, which helps the reader see that legalism and antinomianism are problems from the same root, a misunderstanding of God’s grace. With this recent book in mind, I was compelled to read Devoted to God by Sinclair Ferguson.

Devoted to God is ten chapters long. Each chapter is an exposition by Ferguson of the following ten passages: 1 Peter 1:1-25; Romans 12:1-2; Galatians 2:20; Romans 6:1-14; Galatians 5:16-17; Colossians 3:1-17; Romans 8:13; Matthew 5:17-20; Hebrews 12:1-14; Romans 8:29.

I recently described reading Devoted to God as an opportunity to guzzle the gospel. The main premise that Ferguson highlights through the ten passages is the following “spiritual logic.”

“Exhortations to be holy are always derived from an exposition of what God has done and provided for us in Christ and through the gift of the Spirit. Indicatives are always the foundation for imperatives even if they appear in the reverse order.

God never throws us back to rely upon ourselves and our own resources. He encourages us rather to grow up as Christians by digging down ever more deeply into the riches of his grace in Jesus Christ. Christ himself is rich and fertile soil in which Christian holiness puts down strong roots, grows tall and bears the fruit of the Spirit. Thus the New Testament always links two things together in an important piece of spiritual logic. The new situation creates the new lifestyle:

God has been or done this – therefore you should be or do that.


Be this, or become that – because this is who God is and what he has done.” – page 93

It is incredibly refreshing and energizing to think of sanctification in these terms. We can be successful in becoming more like Christ because of “the riches of his grace in Jesus Christ.” We have hope to change from one degree of glory to another on the basis “of what God has done and provided for us in Christ and through the gift of the Spirit.”

I highly recommend the reading of this book to cement in your mind and heart how sanctification is to work in the life of a Christian. You will be given the tools to determine if preachers are motivating you biblically or are trying some other means that simply sound biblical when in fact they are not rooted in the truths of the gospel. In fact, Ferguson gives some great questions to consider on page 119:

“The key test of any formula for sanctification is: Does this enable me to overcome the influence of sin, not simply in my outward actions but in my inner motivations? And, in particular: Does it increase my trust in and love for the Lord Jesus Christ? Is it a Christ-centred sanctification I am being offered?”

Below you will find some quotes that I found especially insightful and/or helpful when considering how we are to become more like Christ. Enjoy!

A fundamental way in which Christian character is strengthened is by stress. The friction God builds into the Christian life is, therefore, not accidental. It is deliberate, strategic, and intended to produce growth in holiness. – page 27

How strange it is that people think (as many seem to do) that they will be happy pursuing holiness there and then in heaven, if they are singularly unhappy about the calling to pursue it here and now on earth. No, there is continuity. Love holiness now, because we love the Holy One and we will love it all the more then, in the presence of the Holy One when we see him face to face. – page 28

When God urges us to be holy he is not throwing us back on our own resources to pull ourselves up by our boot strings and to do better. Rather he encourages us to swim into the sea of God’s love, to immerse our lives in his grace, and to live on the basis of the resources he has provided for us in Christ. To change the metaphor, growing in holiness and sanctification requires that we put down deep roots into the soil of the gospel. – page 32

If we are to understand the nature of sanctification and successfully pursue it, we must immerse ourselves in appreciating the grace of God expressed to us in Jesus Christ and applied in us by the Holy Spirit. – page 35

The weightier the indicatives the more demanding the imperatives they are able to support. The more powerful the proclamation of grace the more rigorous the commands it can sustain. – pages 39-40

This, perhaps, is the most obvious contrast between life in sin and life in grace. To the unregenerate, God’s will is inevitably unpleasant, simply because it is his will and not their will. They do not know that he wills much better for us than we can ever will for ourselves. But to those who are being transformed, God’s will brings pleasure. – page 52

The gospel turns the duty of doing and experiencing God’s will into a delight. – page 53

Jesus lived a life of complete obedience and perfect sanctification. – page 58

Thus, everything Christ did he did for me in obedience to his Father. All that he has done is therefore mine as a gift. He gave himself for me, in his love to me; and now through the Spirit all that he did is mine. – page 59

Paul is grinding spectacle lenses for us according to the gospel’s prescription. We need to wear these spectacles in order to see ourselves more clearly and to recognise and benefit from our new identity in Christ. – page 65

We have been too busy doing to take time to reflect on being. As a result we suffer from a loss of our Christian identity…But grasp the indwelling of Christ and a new dynamic is released, and a new melody is introduced into our devotion. – page 67

An important aspect of sanctification: thinking through the logic of the gospel corrects, cleanses, recalibrates, transforms, and sanctifies us emotionally as well as intellectually. – page 77

We may have given our whole lives to Christ; but it will take the rest of our lives to work that out in practice. And we can only do that if we keep on walking in the Spirit. – page 102

The more sensitive we are to the fact that we are living in a warfare context, the more successful we are going to be in living in the Spirit. – page 104

We battle with the flesh. But it is never enough to concentrate our attention only on the flesh. We must give our attention to the Spirit. – page 108

We must never stress the negative (‘put to death’) on its own. That would lead to spiritual disaster. It must be accompanied by the positive (‘put on’). – page 129

Thus, growing in sanctification means:

  • Understanding that I am a new man or new woman in Christ.
  • Recognizing the traits in my life that are inconsistent with that new identity.
  • Dealing death blows to my sins.

And simultaneously

  • Clothing myself in the graces of Jesus. – pages 137-138

There are no spiritual gains without pains. So we must be willing to act with spiritual violence against our sins. – page 146

The motivations themselves carry with them the impetus to live wholly for Christ. – page 153

Love was always at the heart of God’s law. It was given by love to be received in love and obeyed through love. – page 162

Love provides motivation for obedience, while law provides direction for love. – page 163

The law-maker became the law-keeper, but then took our place and condemnation as though he were the law-breaker. – page 179

Sometimes pilgrimage can seem a lot harder than bondage. – page 192

Christians have a significantly different form of the maxim: ‘Know thy sinful self.’… It is ‘know your Christian self!’ – be conscious not only of what you are by nature, but of who and what you have become in Christ. For we must never lose sight of what we are in Christ when we are reflecting on what we are in ourselves. – page 199

Know your sin, but know also the power of God’s grace…Not even sin and its strength should be allowed to loom so large in our thinking or feeling that it covers up the sight of Christ and his people. – page 203

It is as though struggles, suffering, trials, are, in the Spirit’s hands, the raw materials out of which he creates glory in us. – page 219

Grasp this and it sheds light on our path. Is my life more rather than less challenging now that I have become a Christian? Am I puzzled by what the Lord seems to be doing in the circumstances of my life? Do I face trials and experience affliction, even forms of persecution I never expected? Am I discovering more sin in my heart than I ever imagined before I became a Christian? Then he is sanctifying me. And this is a much bigger, wider, longer, deeper work than I first realised when I became a Christian. God is not interested in short-term results but long-term, permanent (everlasting!) changes. – pages 219-220


Is friendship something you struggle with? Have you been burned recently and, as a result, you are more cynical toward friendship? These are questions that I have asked myself lately. Therefore, when I saw the title and subtitle of this new book by Scott Sauls, my curiosity got the better of me resulting in another book purchase.

Now that Sara and I have both read the book, I’m glad I purchased the book. We now have new eyes regarding friendship, and these eyes for friendship go beyond my small radius of community or society but now extends to the entire world and culture out there. Scott Sauls does a great job of helping you see what you can’t see right now and exposes you to people that we can now befriend as a result of our faith and trust in Jesus Christ.

In order to wet your appetite, I’m going to post a few quotes that Sara and I found impactful throughout the book. I pray that you enjoy them!

You can purchase the book here.

love is complete, love is at its most healthy place, when the duties of love are driven by the delights of love. – page 189

When we prioritize the duties of love and cease nurturing the delights of love, what used to be our greatest source of companionship becomes our greatest source of loneliness. – page 190

When we lose our intimacy with God, God isn’t the one who has moved away. – page 190

when we walk with him only side-by-side and not face-to-face, it’s just a matter of time before we turn ourselves back-to-back with Jesus. – page 192

For when you are face-to-face with Love himself, you become more loving. When you are face-to-face with Kindness himself, you become more kind. When you are face-to-face with Generosity himself, you become more generous. When you are face-to-face with Hospitality himself, you become more hospitable. It’s how Jesus works. He rubs off on us. – page 194

Aim first at delight, and you will get duty thrown in. Aim first at duty, and you will get neither. – page 193

Real friends not only agree but disagree; real friends not only applaud each other’s strengths but challenge each other’s weaknesses; real friends not only enjoy life together but struggle through life together; real friends not only praise one another but apologize to and forgive one another; real friends not only rally around their points of agreement but love and learn from their points of disagreement. – pages 4-5

Shame-the disquieting, vague sense that there’s something deeply wrong with us, that we are not enough-keeps us preoccupied with ourselves and inattentive to the needs of others. – page 11

Jesus has lifted our shame off of us, nailing it to the cross. – page 13

Grace comes before ethics. No condemnation comes before the morality discussion. Kindness leads to repentance. Love-the broad embrace of Jesus’ narrow path-creates the most life-giving experiences you’ll ever be part of. – page 19

We must become convinced that Love has to be a person to us before it can become a verb. – page 23

Faithful are the wounds of friends who show me a mirror, who praise the good in me but who also point out what’s hurtful, because such wounds are surgical, not punitive. Such wounds are restorative, not insulting. – page 56

Remaining calm, loving, and nondefensive, no matter what the political outcomes, is the way of Jesus-and of his followers who have their kingdoms rightly ordered. “Do not fear, little flock, for I am with you,” says the King. Do not rejoice when you find yourselves in temporary positions of power and influence, Jesus says, “but rejoice that your names are written in heaven.” – page 177

Rapture Come Quickly

Maybe you have heard someone say or even said to yourself, “I sure hope the rapture comes soon.” I’m sure that some part of each person who says that really does desire to see Jesus face-to-face, but, if you are like me, I think the more likely wish of our hearts is to escape a current trial.

The Bible is filled with encouragement for those in trials of any kind. Do we find the same wishful thinking we see our hearts crying out for, or is there something even better that God’s word points us to? Let’s take a look:

Psalm 33:16 The king is not saved by his great army; a warrior is not delivered by his great strength. 17 The war horse is a false hope for salvation, and by its great might it cannot rescue. 18 Behold, the eye of the LORD is on those who fear him, on those who hope in his steadfast love, 19 that he may deliver their soul from death and keep them alive in famine. 20 Our soul waits for the LORD; he is our help and our shield. 21 For our heart is glad in him, because we trust in his holy name. 22 Let your steadfast love, O LORD, be upon us, even as we hope in you.

The psalmist highlights our tendency to put our hope or trust in man-made devices like our armies or our strength (vs. 16-17), but the better promise and hope is in the steadfast love of the LORD (v. 18). As a result of this more certain hope, we can wait in the midst of our trial (v. 20) and experience joy and gladness even in our waiting (v. 21).

Psalm 42:5 Why are you cast down, O my soul, and why are you in turmoil within me? Hope in God…11 Why are you cast down, O my soul, and why are you in turmoil within me? Hope in God.

Notice how the psalmist attacks his downcast soul, he calls out to hope in God. Additionally, note how the psalmist is talking to himself. Instead of believing that he can encourage his own heart through a change in circumstance, the psalmist calls out to hope in God.

Romans 5:1 Therefore, since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. 2 Through him we have also obtained access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God. 3 More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, 4 and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, 5 and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.

Romans 12:12 Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.

Romans 15:13 May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.

Look at how the Apostle Paul encourages the Romans in the midst of their sufferings and trials. He doesn’t pray that they would escape them or have a change in circumstances, but instead he points to the hope that does not put us to shame because by faith in Jesus Christ we have obtained access into this grace that we know God gives us even more of as we are humble (James 4:6).

So what is our posture in the midst of trials, sufferings, and difficulties? Our posture is one that holds tightly to the hope we have in God through Jesus Christ by the power of the Holy Spirit for the Day when all evil is extinguished both in the new heavens and new earth and in our hearts. Even as our hearts cry out to escape a trial or to avoid a trial, we have something even better to put our hope in, Jesus Christ, who conquered death by dying, who made sin powerless by taking on all our sin, and who made our future certain by raising from the dead.

Brothers and sisters, may we experience the joy of our salvation in our daily living as we abound in hope and rejoice in hope, who is Jesus Christ, the hope of glory (Colossians 1:27).

Why Sponsorship with Family Legacy?

Psalm 68:5 Father of the fatherless and protector of widows is God in his holy habitation.

Deuteronomy 10:18 He executes justice for the fatherless and the widow, and loves the sojourner, giving him food and clothing.

Psalm 146:9 The LORD watches over the sojourners; he upholds the widow and the fatherless, but the way of the wicked he brings to ruin.

James 1:27 Religion that is pure and undefiled before God, the Father, is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world.

Our family of five just returned from our trip together to Lusaka, Zambia to serve and love the orphans in Lusaka. Zambia has the highest orphan population per capita in the world. A year ago my wife and I made the trip without our kids, so we have a unique privilege of seeing things from two vantage points.

Last year we had 14 kids to find sponsors for and this year we have 7 kids.  This year we were able to see the transformation that took place in those kids who became sponsored last year and find out how their lives have changed. One such girl in my wife’s group shared that while she was beaten last year, she is no longer beaten because she was now going to school with Family Legacy. Previously, this little girl had no value to her family or community, and now with education, she was valued and therefore not beaten.

Additionally, these kids are now speaking English, understanding English, and are more vibrant in just one year. English is the official language of Zambia, but education is needed in order to learn the language. Otherwise, all the children grow up learning and understanding a tribal language with only the ability to communicate it orally.

Every child we spoke to this year loved going to school, and the primary prayer request we heard from all our kids was that they wanted to keep going to school. As far as those kids who did not have a sponsor yet, their prayer request was that they would have the opportunity to go to school. Education in Zambia is a rare privilege for few children in the country, but Family Legacy has created the opportunity to provide top level education for children that are sponsored.

So why should you sponsor a child?

Education – Just like the real-life story above, education for these orphans is a life changer. They become valued in their family and community. The hope that can be expressed in words and stories begins to take root when their educational needs begin being met.

Food – Likewise, as part of the opportunity to attend school in their community, these orphans are given a healthy meal to enjoy. Most orphans of Zambia will eat once or twice a day with the content of those meals being only tea and nshima (a grits like mixture). IMG_2140.2

Due to the malnutrition of these orphans, they will appear many years younger than their actual ages. Sponsorship allows them to receive a nutritious meal giving them the opportunity to develop physically.

Discipleship – While education and food will provide orphans the opportunity to grow socially and physically, they likewise need to know about a Hope that goes beyond any of our circumstances. It is through these felt needs being met that Zambian orphans can actually hear the gospel without being distracted by their lack of education or empty stomachs. Sponsorship ensures that these children will also be taught the gospel, that there is Hope for life beyond the boundaries of this world through faith in Jesus Christ, who lived a perfect life, died a death we deserved, and raised to life to live forever at God’s right hand to this day.

Change – Being able to see our orphans after one year has given us physical proof of change. Those three reasons above are not just abstract ideas or concepts, but we have seen with our eyes and touched with our hands the actual change that takes place in the lives of the orphans through sponsorship. Yes, sponsorship really does make a difference in the individual lives of orphans and in the communities all over Lusaka, Zambia.

For example, see the following picture:


As the verses at the beginning of this post indicate, we serve a God who has a heart and love for the fatherless, the orphan, and we have the privilege and responsibility to care for and love the orphan. Sponsorship through Family Legacy for one of these orphans is just the way we can do this.

Our family has been sponsoring two orphans since 2012, and we have seen just how transformational sponsorship can be in these children, in our lives, and in the lives of our own children. Take the plunge and allow your heart to love like you did not know it could when you sponsor one of these orphans.

You can sponsor kids at the following links:

Boys to Sponsor

Girls to Sponsor

So What Happened?


My posts since Tuesday have been intentionally cryptic in that things have been happening here that I simply was not prepared to write about in detail. We have come to the end of Camp LIFE, and we are preparing to have our final parties tomorrow. I think you need to know the following details to produce praise in you toward God and result in additional prayers for the trip home starting tomorrow night.

My Friday of Camp LIFE was completely different than the others except for Gretchen. As you see in the picture associated with this post, Gretchen is in a hospital room, and she has been there since Tuesday afternoon.

Before I share with you how we end our week in a hospital in Lusaka, Zambia, I’m going to give you a list of things that are unique to this trip.

  • Gretchen was a last minute addition to the group going to Zambia due to an available spot and funds.
  • Meagan Graham wanted to come on this trip, but the list of participants was full until we offered to have her sleep with our girls.
  • At no other times in our lives do we have instant access to a top-notch doctor.
  • Due to our group’s association with Izzy’s House, we were given extra Zambian partners in three of our groups. Usually we have two partners, but these three groups had three.
  • My family shared groups this week, so Trevor helped me with our boys and Kristin and Samantha helped Sara with her girls.

With these facts in mind, the following took place Tuesday afternoon. Gretchen began to feel abnormal tingling and felt nauseous and weak about 1pm Tuesday at which time Sarah Winebrenner gave her some nuts to eat. Our large group time started at 1:30pm, and Gretchen thought she had not drank enough water resulting in her feeling bad. She drank a whole 20 oz. container of water at the start of large group. Gretchen continued to feel bad whereby Sara Krupke was encouraging her to go to the clinic (instant access to best doctor in country).

After feeling like she was feeling better, Gretchen began to meet with her group to share the gospel when the same tingling feeling came back at which point she felt like she was going to faint. She knew she needed to get to the clinic right away. Mercy, one of her Zambian partners and one of Izzy’s House girls, guided her to the clinic, which was only yards away.

When she arrived, she described her condition to Dr. Brad Guffey, who made her drink a salty fluid suspecting that she was dehydrated. After making Gretchen lay down, she completed the first bottle full of liquid at which point Gretchen experienced a serious seizure. Her face turned purple, her hands turned purple, and she was described as frozen. Dr. Guffey went into immediate action to save Gretchen’s life. Yes, Dr. Guffey most definitely saved Gretchen’s life in the middle of Lusaka, Zambia on a Tuesday afternoon.

Just as a quick side note, it’s amazing how when one of your close friends has a real near death experience that it puts so many other events in their proper perspective. Our life is so short, and we have a tendency to become so wrapped up in the heat of the moment of our lives that we fail to remember that God is in control and that our life is incredibly short.

Dr. Guffey was able to stabilize Gretchen at which point she was rushed to the best and closest hospital in Lusaka where she has been ever since. As a result of this traumatic episode, Family Legacy and our group have been maintaining constant care of Gretchen by having someone stay with her in the hospital at all times, and Dr. Guffey has requested that one Family Legacy employee is always awake throughout the night watching Gretchen.

As another side note, Family Legacy has been fantastic! We have seen one employee after another take their turn in the hospital, which is something they never planned to do, but they come with smiles and loving hearts. Wow! Their goal of ministering to both the Zambian orphan and American family could not have been seen anymore better than this week.

So why those details above? Our group has had to share many responsibilities including spending the night in the hospital each night until we leave tomorrow. This would not be possible unless all those things above were true. God knew what we needed so far in advance that our only proper response is to praise Him.

Furthermore, consider with me the timing of this event. If Gretchen had this episode at any other time, in any other place, she likely doesn’t have the immediate medical care to save her life. If you just ponder these things, what can we do but overflow in thanksgiving for our loving Savior God Jesus Christ.

The rest of the group enjoyed their final day with the kids handing out their new backpacks, enjoying a balloon release, and giving them heart-felt, full of tears hugs. God is so good, and as God does every year, our hearts are full of His grace as He has moved in us while also blessing the Zambian orphans.

Please pray for our flights home tomorrow night. We will all be working together to ensure that Gretchen is cared for and monitored throughout both flights. Be watching Facebook to find out when we hit the ground safely in Houston Sunday afternoon.