Is friendship something you struggle with? Have you been burned recently and, as a result, you are more cynical toward friendship? These are questions that I have asked myself lately. Therefore, when I saw the title and subtitle of this new book by Scott Sauls, my curiosity got the better of me resulting in another book purchase.
Now that Sara and I have both read the book, I’m glad I purchased the book. We now have new eyes regarding friendship, and these eyes for friendship go beyond my small radius of community or society but now extends to the entire world and culture out there. Scott Sauls does a great job of helping you see what you can’t see right now and exposes you to people that we can now befriend as a result of our faith and trust in Jesus Christ.
In order to wet your appetite, I’m going to post a few quotes that Sara and I found impactful throughout the book. I pray that you enjoy them!
love is complete, love is at its most healthy place, when the duties of love are driven by the delights of love. – page 189
When we prioritize the duties of love and cease nurturing the delights of love, what used to be our greatest source of companionship becomes our greatest source of loneliness. – page 190
When we lose our intimacy with God, God isn’t the one who has moved away. – page 190
when we walk with him only side-by-side and not face-to-face, it’s just a matter of time before we turn ourselves back-to-back with Jesus. – page 192
For when you are face-to-face with Love himself, you become more loving. When you are face-to-face with Kindness himself, you become more kind. When you are face-to-face with Generosity himself, you become more generous. When you are face-to-face with Hospitality himself, you become more hospitable. It’s how Jesus works. He rubs off on us. – page 194
Aim first at delight, and you will get duty thrown in. Aim first at duty, and you will get neither. – page 193
Real friends not only agree but disagree; real friends not only applaud each other’s strengths but challenge each other’s weaknesses; real friends not only enjoy life together but struggle through life together; real friends not only praise one another but apologize to and forgive one another; real friends not only rally around their points of agreement but love and learn from their points of disagreement. – pages 4-5
Shame-the disquieting, vague sense that there’s something deeply wrong with us, that we are not enough-keeps us preoccupied with ourselves and inattentive to the needs of others. – page 11
Jesus has lifted our shame off of us, nailing it to the cross. – page 13
Grace comes before ethics. No condemnation comes before the morality discussion. Kindness leads to repentance. Love-the broad embrace of Jesus’ narrow path-creates the most life-giving experiences you’ll ever be part of. – page 19
We must become convinced that Love has to be a person to us before it can become a verb. – page 23
Faithful are the wounds of friends who show me a mirror, who praise the good in me but who also point out what’s hurtful, because such wounds are surgical, not punitive. Such wounds are restorative, not insulting. – page 56
Remaining calm, loving, and nondefensive, no matter what the political outcomes, is the way of Jesus-and of his followers who have their kingdoms rightly ordered. “Do not fear, little flock, for I am with you,” says the King. Do not rejoice when you find yourselves in temporary positions of power and influence, Jesus says, “but rejoice that your names are written in heaven.” – page 177